Productivity And Corporate Wellness

A few years ago, I had a traumatic encounter with a woman in a market.

She suddenly started shouting at me. And making unfounded accusations.

I was shocked. Embarrassed. Upset. Even bewildered.

I hated those feelings.

It was deeply traumatic. And, sadly scarred me deeply.

I tried to make sense of it all. I read tons of books and blogs on health and wellbeing. Listened to gurus and inspirational writers. I even practice mindfulness.

Forever trying to make sense of it all.

Want to know what I learned about health and wellbeing?

1. Know yourself

How many of us know ourselves?

Hands up?

I thought I knew myself inside-out.

I was wrong.

It took a trauma to raise me up from a waking sleep.

Being adaptable to health and wellbeing requires looking inside. And owning your emotional reactions to change. It involves a capacity to distance yourself from these emotions. It requires you to respond to the situation. And, not to respond to the emotion experienced.

Sound easy?

It is not.

Learning to approach health and wellbeing like problems takes practice.

I’m often drawn to the question “how do you eat an elephant?”

And the answer is … one bite at a time

Solutions emerge by breaking down challenges into manageable pieces.

2. Listen to your intuitions

Have you ever noticed your gut feeling about health and wellbeing often serves you well?

I’m not sure whether I notice this now because I’m fixated on growth these days. But I do know that I often went against my gut. And I responded with my head.

And more often to my cost.

Those head and emotional responses felt important at first, but I now know they didn’t serve me well.

Some people like to engage their brains in everything they do. I find it easier now to trust my intuition about health and wellbeing. I take my time.

And to this day I’m still amazed sometimes how my gut gets it right.

Plus how calmer I am these days by not seeking out blame.

If it sounds right to you, it is right for you.

So, don’t be afraid to listen to your gut.

Become more aware of health and wellbeing, by engaging your innate gut. And make the journey from trauma to growth as short as possible.

Be realistic in your approach.

Focus on the endgame.

And always work within manageable pieces.

3. Identify your issues

Everyone seems to think that to become more adaptable, you have to protect yourself from future traumas.

It’s like everyone is in a big hurry to get tougher and not get hurt again.

You might think that identifying your issues should come naturally.

Unfortunately often doesn’t work like that.

Makes sense?

And hiding away doesn’t really work. What matters is how you identify with your challenges. And, how you then deal with health and wellbeing.

Of course, I also know that none of us wants to experience the pain of trauma again.

So, I do hear you too.

When we hide away rather than identify our problems, challenges, and opportunities, we are not dealing with our issues.

We burn our energy. Weaken our strengths. And we do not move on with what we learned.

In many ways, we get stuck running to a standstill.

And the key message is to face your health and wellbeing issues head-on.

And don’t avoid the inevitable change or over-analyze – embrace the change.

4. Own your feelings

Often, we don’t have all the time we need. And, we have lots of people competing for our time.

I used to that think that some people were just trying to steal my time.

It used to stress me out.

But I soon learned that others can’t make us feel a certain way.

Only we have control over our own health and wellbeing.

This doesn’t mean we choose emotional coldness.

But only you can choose to react positively or negatively.

I’m more focused on solution-finding now.

Rather than succumbing to emotional responses.

Choose positivity every time.

5. Cope with the loss

I can’t tell you coping with health and wellbeing is easy.

Loss happens for many reasons. It also represents many things. From losing something to not achieving something you desire.

I know I mourned my old self. My protective skin was infiltrated by trauma.

Know that feeling?

It took me time to emerge but I now accept that loss is natural. And an essential learning opportunity.

Understanding health and wellbeing in the right way moves you through the grieving process towards greater acceptance.

6. Separate past and future from the present

The past is gone. And the future hasn’t happened yet.

Know the saying?

In my case, I realized I had to understand my situation as it is now. And how the past was truly gone.

I was permanently changed.

And I had moved forward.

Of course, this awareness does not happen overnight.

At the time, I didn’t understand how trauma works.

So, on your journey towards health and wellbeing is to live in the now.

And only deal with the now today.

Bonus Step – Create meaning and purpose

When that traumatic event happened to me it felt at first like I fell down a hole. And I was still falling.

I was trying to figure out how to explain what had happened to me. Why did this occur? Who was at fault? Was I to blame in some mad delusional way?

I was getting lost – proving a just-world hypothesis.

Good things happen to good people. And bad things happen to bad people was something I believed.

When, in many ways, it was not about me at all.

I had done nothing. But doing nothing didn’t negate my trauma.

When our meaning and purpose becomes unexpectedly derailed, our doubt creeps in, and moving forward becomes difficult.

Fortunately, in time, I discovered we all need to focus on meaning and purpose in our lives.

So rather than looking back at the trauma for answers, I looked forward instead.

The takeaway.

Find what creates meaning and purpose for you. And pursue your health and wellbeing with passion and energy.

Don’t look back.

Become more resilient in your life

You’ll be amazed at how much more adaptable you can be when you use these steps to help you.

And as the basis for your traumatic growth.

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